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We are faced with all kinds of challenges in life. It is easy to get caught up in the daily ups and downs. That is why we prioritize self-care and self-actualization to stop, reflect, and reenergize yourself in the midst of difficult times. From writing poetry to meditating or sharing conversation with good friends, self-care should be personalized to what works best for you. Take the time to get to know yourself and be well.


Overcoming Self-Criticism

Now that we’re past the halfway mark of fall term, many of the recent conversations I’ve had with people have focused upon some variation of the theme, “There’s just not enough time in the day!” Like many of you, I have been working on accepting that no matter how enthusiastically I may try, it’s unlikely that I’ll be able to check off every item on each day’s to-do list. Sometimes, I’m able to embrace this cold, hard fact and have some compassion for myself as I recount everything that didn’t get done that day. At other times, it’s very difficult to maintain that self-compassion.

If you too sometimes struggle with self-criticism, you are far from being alone. Many of us do it in some form or another, which can include doubting ourselves (“I’m so bad at making decisions”), blaming ourselves (“This is all my fault”), labeling ourselves (“I’m such a loser”), and writing off positives (“I did well that time, but...

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Healing in the Face of Violence

Sunday night, October 1st 2017, 58 people were killed and almost 500 injured in a devastating tragedy in Las Vegas. This event is only the most recent in what seems to be a non-stop slew of mass violence in our country. Massacre and tragedy seems to be a new norm. At the same time, many folks are struggling with the rhetoric that surrounded the presidential election, the visibility of police violence, blatant and violent white supremacist movements, lack of safety for undocumented immigrant communities, and the insidiousness of our currently divisive sociopolitical climate.

One might ask oneself, is the world a garbage fire? I cannot say, but it’s safe to say that morale is low. When I talk to students and colleagues, I find a common experience of what we call in our field “burn out.” However, the treatment for burn out is radical self-care. In the wake of such hate and violence, we have an obligation to ourselves and our loved ones to take care of our...

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Rules for the Road: Thriving While at UO & Beyond

You’re in your new place. Your classes are scheduled. Your friends are back In Eugene. The fire smoke has cleared from the air (at least, for now).  It is going to be a great year . . . maybe.

Many of us at the University live in the fast lane, and we may measure our worth by what we accomplish. There is nothing wrong with staying active and achieving things. The problem arises when we forget the person who is driving the car. If we don’t have time to ask: what is it all for? What do I really want to get out of life? What makes me thrive?

The signs and forms of self-neglect are many. We neglect ourselves when we routinely do not get enough sleep or don’t pay attention to a healthy diet. Another form of neglect is not making time for close friends — or perhaps, to make a new one. Irritability is one indication that something is amiss. Another sign is insomnia when you are unable to wind down at the day’s end. Another is a sense of listlessness, the feeling that you...

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Drinking Goals

The beginning of term is right around the corner! And along with students’ return to campus comes, you guessed it—parties. Unfortunately for many, this can be a time of engaging in heavy alcohol use and dealing with the consequences, which can include vandalism, violence, sexual aggression, and occasionally death.

I don’t mean to alarm you, but I do want you to consider the very real possibility of encountering both short and long term consequences from drinking.

That being said, this is not a post to tell you that you need to stop or cut back on your drinking. This is a post to encourage you to think about your drinking goals, and to identify specific harm reduction strategies that you would be willing to implement, and that align with your drinking goals. My purpose here is to empower you to make wise choices that serve your overall happiness and well-being.

For instance, maybe you’re not willing to give up drinking games, but you’d be willing to leave the...

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