Let's Talk About It
We are faced with all kinds of challenges in life. It is easy to get caught up in the daily ups and downs. That is why we prioritize self-care and self-actualization to stop, reflect, and reenergize yourself in the midst of difficult times. From writing poetry to meditating or sharing conversation with good friends, self-care should be personalized to what works best for you. Take the time to get to know yourself and be well.
Haven Walters, a UCS Student Advisory Board graduating senior, has taken the time to write a message to their peers. Throughout their stay at UO, they have become integral parts of their community through their hard work and perseverance. Here is their reflection, hopes, and dreams for the future after experiencing their lives as a student and employee at the University of Oregon.
My time here at the University of Oregon has changed the way I position myself in the world. I went through various obstacles in my personal and academic life that have prepared me to jump into my post-undergrad career. Finding the confidence to be myself without worry of judgment is an obstacle I continue to face. Through this, I realized that it’s important to ask for help, especially when life seems too overwhelming to fully participate in. Through reading and writing, I’ve gained an immense amount of confidence compared to my freshman-self. I’ll continue to write, whether my words get...Read More
Therapy is often seen as a space where you can talk about anything: your feelings, fears, worries, past experiences, identities, relationships, etc. Everything is on the table. But some topics still feel really uncomfortable to share. One thing that some people can feel really unsure about talking about in therapy is sex.
In Western societies, sex is still one of the common topics that many are taught to not talk about along with religion and politics. We are taught that sex is an intimate and private experience. But feeling the need to keep this part of our lives hidden for some can also lead to feelings of uncertainty, shame, fear, and viewing sex as “dirty” or “wrong.” The silence around sex can hold a loud message all on its own.
But why is talking about sex important? And what does it have to do with therapy? When many people hear the phrase sexual health, their minds automatically turn to things like risk, disease, and dysfunction. Sexual health often...Read More
As we are approaching the year mark of the lock downs and implementation of social distancing measures related to the COVID-19 virus. Many of us may be triggered by the countless experiences that we have lived through during this past year. The effects of this pandemic are far reaching. Regardless of our situation, we have all experienced loss and pain in one form or another. Many of us continue to cycle through a myriad of emotions.
Intense emotions influence each person in different ways. For some, managing strong feelings comes easy and seem to be second nature. For many, the fight toward maintaining their mental health takes constant effort, with repeated disappointment, and the need for recalibration along the way. People around the world are seeking help from mental health professionals, while others continue to turn towards different means to cope.
During these turbulent times may I suggest the use of mindfulness.
Mindfulness can be defined as the...Read More
It is no secret that a strong relationship exists between mental wellbeing and substance use. Probably at the top of this list is the experience of shame. When talking with students who are struggling with substance use difficulties, shame is often one of the most common and also most painful experiences discussed. Substance use and mis-use comes with a whole host of experiences that aid in the development of this shame. A few that come to mind include judgment from others, societal stigma and oppression, living in a country that has a long history of villainizing and criminalizing substance use and users, anger at self, and comparison to others. “They seem to be able to keep this under control- why can’t I??” “They go to more meetings than I do- they’re recovery plan must be better than mine.” “They have anxiety too, why can they handle it without smoking/drinking and I can’t?” Take a moment to reflect on any other thoughts of negative self-comparison that...Read More