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If you are oncerned About a Friend or Family Member...

DO:

  • Talk with your friend in private. This helps set the stage & may help minimize embarrassment or guardedness.
  • Approach the conversation with compassion and avoiding judgement.
  • Openly acknowledge that you are aware of their distress. It may be helpful to be specific about what you have noticed that concerns you.
  • Speak directly and honestly and share your concern about their welfare.
  • Be available to listen, talk, be concerned, and refer to resources.
  • Directly ask if your friend has been thinking about suicide. Asking this question WON'T increase their risk.
  • Take your friend seriously - most persons who die by suicide give warning of their intent.
  • Listen carefully to why your friend is troubled.
  • Try to see the issue from their view without necessarily agreeing or disagreeing.
  • Attempt to identify the problem and explore options to deal with the problem.
  • Convey realistic hope that underlying problems or issues can be resolved.
  • Feel free to talk with someone else (e.g., RA, campus counselor) about your concerns to get ideas and support.
  • Take care of yourself as the helper – be sure to reach out for emotional support.
  • In a crisis, consider options for removing the person's access to the means for suicide, e.g., pills, knives.
  • Let your friend know that effective help is available on campus.

 

DON'T:

  • Don't ignore behavior or changes that concern you.
  • Don't minimize the situation or depth of feeling, e.g.,"It can’t be that bad . . . it will be much better tomorrow."
  • Don’t worry about saying the wrong thing. It’s fine to acknowledge that you may not have all the answers. Your genuine interest and support is what matters.
  • Don't over commit yourself and not be able to deliver on what you promise.
  • Don't promise to keep what they say a secret. You may need to get help & support.
  • Don't ignore your limitations, such as trying to help in ways that make you feel uncomfortable or put your own life and well being at risk.
  • Don’t leave your friend alone if they are imminently suicidal.
  • Don’t feel that you are alone. Others on campus are happy to assist you.

 

Counseling staff are available for consultation — 346-3227 (M,U,W ,F: 8 – 5, Th: 11-5)After Hours you may call 346-3227 to connect to the Support and Crisis Line

 

UO Resources:

  • Counseling & Testing Center - (541) 346-3227
  • University Health Center - (541) 346-2770
  • Office of the Dean of Students - (541) 346-3216
  • After Hours Support and Crisis Line (Eves./Wkends) - (541) 346-3227

 

Self-help websites & Other Suicide Information:

u life line

half of us

suicide.org

 

24-hour Community Crisis Resources Include:

  • Eugene Emergency - 911
  • White Bird Clinic - (541) 687-4000
  • CAHOOTS Mobile Crisis - (541) 682-5111
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK  (1-800-273-8255)

 

Help is available. All you have to do is take the first step and make a phone call.

 

If you are oncerned About a Friend or Family Member...

DO:

  • Talk with your friend in private. This helps set the stage & may help minimize embarrassment or guardedness.
  • Approach the conversation with compassion and avoiding judgement.
  • Openly acknowledge that you are aware of their distress. It may be helpful to be specific about what you have noticed that concerns you.
  • Speak directly and honestly and share your concern about their welfare.
  • Be available to listen, talk, be concerned, and refer to resources.
  • Directly ask if your friend has been thinking about suicide. Asking this question WON'T increase their risk.
  • Take your friend seriously - most persons who die by suicide give warning of their intent.
  • Listen carefully to why your friend is troubled.
  • Try to see the issue from their view without necessarily agreeing or disagreeing.
  • Attempt to identify the problem and explore options to deal with the problem.
  • Convey realistic hope that underlying problems or issues can be resolved.
  • Feel free to talk with someone else (e.g., RA, campus counselor) about your concerns to get ideas and support.
  • Take care of yourself as the helper – be sure to reach out for emotional support.
  • In a crisis, consider options for removing the person's access to the means for suicide, e.g., pills, knives.
  • Let your friend know that effective help is available on campus.

 

DON'T:

  • Don't ignore behavior or changes that concern you.
  • Don't minimize the situation or depth of feeling, e.g.,"It can’t be that bad . . . it will be much better tomorrow."
  • Don’t worry about saying the wrong thing. It’s fine to acknowledge that you may not have all the answers. Your genuine interest and support is what matters.
  • Don't over commit yourself and not be able to deliver on what you promise.
  • Don't promise to keep what they say a secret. You may need to get help & support.
  • Don't ignore your limitations, such as trying to help in ways that make you feel uncomfortable or put your own life and well being at risk.
  • Don’t leave your friend alone if they are imminently suicidal.
  • Don’t feel that you are alone. Others on campus are happy to assist you.

 

Counseling staff are available for consultation — 346-3227 (M,U,W ,F: 8 – 5, Th: 11-5)After Hours you may call 346-3227 to connect to the Support and Crisis Line

 

UO Resources:

  • Counseling & Testing Center - (541) 346-3227
  • University Health Center - (541) 346-2770
  • Office of the Dean of Students - (541) 346-3216
  • After Hours Support and Crisis Line (Eves./Wkends) - (541) 346-3227

 

Self-help websites & Other Suicide Information:

u life line

half of us

suicide.org

 

24-hour Community Crisis Resources Include:

  • Eugene Emergency - 911
  • White Bird Clinic - (541) 687-4000
  • CAHOOTS Mobile Crisis - (541) 682-5111
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK  (1-800-273-8255)

 

Help is available. All you have to do is take the first step and make a phone call.